We all have a past, a story, an incident; some more sordid than others. For years, the past and fear of reprisal held me hostage until that blistery cold day in February of 2007. That was the day I declared my life meaningful and purposeful. And although I had no idea what that meant, I stood up and declared that enough was enough! Oh, I know you already know life is not fair! No surprise to you to be sure, but still it took some reckoning with myself and two failed marriages to see that life was happening with or without me living full on!
We all have pasts – so be it. It may be your lot in life, but that doesn’t mean it has to be all bad. We’ve all been through challenging times in our lives. Times when the future looks bleak, and darkness, seems to prevail at every turn. Times when rising out of bed seems paramount to climbing Mount Everest.
It could be something big or small that results in a perfectly timed sequence of events – a loss of friendship, loss of marriage, loss of career, loss of a company, or worse. It can set us back and change our trajectory.
No matter how much someone has endured in the past, the results of a perfectly timed incident can change EVERYTHING! And at times, it is merely the build up of events that causes the final break that bring us to our knees.
No manner of preparedness can remove the pain, suffering or loss in that moment. Why? Because we are not geared as human beings to live that way. Although it would be useful if we could switch our emotions or reactions to GO!
Many times I have asked my husband, a professional retired firefighter of 30 years, how he handled so many tragedies. He ALWAYS says the same thing. “I did what I was trained to do.” He also goes on to say each time “the human mind is not equipped to handle such tragedies on regular basis.” I agree with this.
When I was in hiding I lived on alert, and it took its toll on my physical and emotional health, as well as my relationships and career.
Herein lies the problem and, for me, also the solution.
Just as Michael referred to his training being the go-to method of coping, I believe the experiences of past actions are insightful predictors of future responses.
There are three choices in an extreme adversity:
- It can destroy you and leave you paralyzed
- It can change you and your dreams
- It can ignite you and create change
No matter how difficult life has been, I’ve always chosen three!
Forgiveness is my secret sauce, along with acknowledgment of my role in it, and understanding where I came from. There are blessings, gifts, nuggets and teaching in EVERY obstacle you overcome! No matter how dark. Forgiveness is not about forgetting what happened or condoning the actions of another – not at all. It is about moving forward, and expanding your life and future.
Every experience of trauma or challenge adds to our tool chest of how and what to do next. Recently, I was a guest on a radio show in which the frequently asked question arose regarding the police and accountability.
Have a listen here http://bit.ly/1XeTSDi
Moving people from best kept secret to SUCCESS in life, love and business is what I do. Having been the best kept secret for 35 years, I am fully equipped to move entrepreneurs through the maze. It is what I refer to as the trifecta of success.
Before any movement can take place three key elements that must be addressed:
- Desire for change – without which any further steps are pointless.
- Forgiveness of self and others, with acknowledgment of your role.
- ACTION is required – without action, there can be no forward movement.
Without all three no change can or will occur!
I am passionate and committed to helping entrepreneurs stand up and claim their place. We are here to do something BOLD! We are here to break the cycle, change a life, light a path, or be the change we seek in the world.
Here is the bottom line: You have the choice and power to change what isn’t working. YOU are the one selected to live the life you live. So congratulations, you have been chosen to live your life and it’s your time, so set the course and live in joy!
Are you ready to do what needs doing? If so, join us and let’s do this thing together!
Do you believe…
